The marriage bed was never to be shared with porn stars. Part of the wedding vow is “forsaking all others.”

Think of it: A man is sharing his body, his heart, and his thoughts with others, or in the case of porn, many others!

Pornography causes men to view women as objects rather than as wonderful, relational human beings. Pornography is a self-centered activity, something a man does by himself, and for himself — by using another woman as the means to pleasure, as yet another product to consume.[1]

The reason pornography is so destructive is that it incrementally destroys a man’s (or woman’s) capacities to appreciate and love a woman purely for herself. This is what each of us needs. When anyone reads, views, or watches porn, they are training their body to require ever increasing degrees of different, strange, erotic situations and bodies, and the result is that they are making it more and more difficult to be content with the real body of their mate. I have never met a woman, even at her best, that can match the airbrushed faces and bodies of pornographic sites.

And remember, everyone ages, right? When someone hits 50, they will look less and less like the images portrayed in porn. If a man has not cultivated a godly, pure love for his wife as she is, then it is inevitable that his eyes will wander especially as his wife ages and becomes 40, 50, and 60.

Ask yourself:

  • “When I fantasize, am I usually imagining myself with my wife?”
  • If you use porn, what keeps you coming back?

(Taken from the article “Pornography — The Ultimate Bait and Switch” found in the book Under the Covers, A Message of Hope for Those Who Want to be Free From Porn, Buying Sex and Abuse, available on this website.)

[1] Darrell Brazell, www.newhope4si.com